Facebook

… is driving me insane.

I’m sick of it but I can’t escape! Even though I’m done school now and I have time to waste on facebook I’m sick of wasting my time with it at all.

I’m sure anyone who has facebook has had the experience of looking through someone’s profile for like half an hour and then saying to yourself “I don’t even like this person! and now I hate them even more!”

So why do it? If I know I hate people why must I look at their profiles? It’s like I just want to be reminded that I hate them or I need some info to fuel my hatred further. I know we learned about something like this in Commmunication Theory but I obviously wasn’t listening very well. I believe it’s on my final next week. The whole idea that even though we hate something we will continue to watch it (if its a show or movie), or obtain info about it somehow so that our opinions will be validated. The same way I hate Degrassi but will continue to watch it so that I can list the reasons why I hate it. Yes I watch Degrassi from time to time. And yes I know I have just been severely judged by you all.
Anyways all this is the reason why I deleted facebook for one whole week. Unfortunately following that long week I caved and returned to it. The sad thing is I didn’t even miss it. I know everyone’s like “Yeah yeah Mel, sure you didn’t miss it.” but really, I didn’t! I was actually doing good and it felt really good to not take study breaks every 2 minutes to see what was happening on facebook, which by the way nothing was! It also felt good to not come home exhausted but have the need to check facebook before bed, and then only get to bed 2 hours later because I ended up stalking someone I despise. The real reason I added it back was I realized that there are certain people I don’t know how to reach without it. Let’s face it there are certain people you would message on facebook but wouldn’t necessarily call. It doesn’t however mean that you don’t actually need these people for some things.

Now my main complaint about facebook. There are certain people who have told me that they love facebook because they can check how their friends are doing whenever they want because they don’t always have time to call. This reason upsets me because think of all the time you spend on facebook. If you took that time and called a different friend up each day then you would know how they’re doing and it’s much more personal than writing on their wall, like everyone else does. Now you may say that you wouldn’t have time to call all your old friends up but let’s be real, you only actually truly care about maybe 15 people out of your facebook friends. I guess it all really comes down to would you rather have 400 acquaintances, or a few real friends with voices you can actually recognize? All facebook does is encourage us to talk to each other less and make us feel more alone because we barely know our “top” friends.

The truth is you may be able to find out what a person did with their summer, or what they’re studying in school from their facebook page, but you definitely can’t tell how they are truly doing. A status full of anger can’t even begin to express the real pain a “friend” may be going through and unless you personally take the time to call your friends up and see how they’re doing, when you finally do you may find out that they’re not really your friends anymore. Some people are only now beginning to realize this about me because they assumed my facebook page said everything about me. Well it doesn’t. And I’m sure yours doesn’t either.

I realize that this whole thing kind of resembles a PSA warning about facebook, but it’s meant to be more me telling you to reach out to your friends a little further than their wall. You may realize people need you more than you think.

Well I’m done being all dramatic now, have a good week everyone:)